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I recently went fishing with a couple of men from Redeemer Fellowship and during our discussions the practice of mentorship came up. Since then I have been reflecting on the many godly men The Lord has brought into my life to shepherd me. These men have prayed for me and with me, they have encouraged me, confronted me, and called me to seek after the Lord. They have discipled me in what it means to love God and my neighbor, spoken truth in love, and pressed me to not just accept a surface level faith, but one that transforms my heart and mind.
Sadly, many neglect mentorship and die a slow spiritual death by isolation.
There have been times in my life where I have failed to make mentorship a priority. During those times, there have been heart issues that are attached to my unwillingness to being mentored.
I tell myself that I do not need mentoring. I begin to believe that I have "arrived" and do not need others to speak into my life. My heart becomes so hard and I believe my own hype that I tell myself that I have advanced far enough. Even as I grow in my faith, I am constantly in danger of believing that others have nothing to contribute that is new to me. People do not outright say this, but it lies beneath the surface when one refuses mentorship. During mentorship, one is relying on and believing that God is using the other individual to point out growth areas that need addressing.
Sometimes, people refuse or sidestep mentoring because of sin issues in their lives. Not only arrogance, but other deep issues. Mentoring, when done properly, should be uncovering heart issues. Sometimes people just do not want to deal with these issues. To avoid these issues, people run from the accountability and honesty that mentorship can bring.
The local church itself has neglected its responsibility in mentorship. It is extremely annoying when a church bemoans the lack of mentorship, yet does not give their people the training and tools to properly mentor. Not everyone should be a mentor and not everyone knows how to. When the church steps up to train people, a culture of mentorship begins to develop.
There are many believers who are dying a slow spiritual death by isolation. Whether arrogance, sin, or a lack of faithful training by the local church, people refuse to allow mentoring in their life.
Part 2 will focus on the benefits of mentorship. Part 3 will give the basics on how to mentor others.